Recommended Resources

These books are beneficial for relationships and individuals

Family Solutions Resources

Relationship Enrichment Books

Dr. John Gottman books: based on over four decades of research into what makes relationships work well and what makes relationships fail

  • “What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal”
  • “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”
  • “Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love”
  • “The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples”
  • “The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want”
  • “And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives”
  • “The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships”

Dr. Dan Wile Books:

  • “After the Honeymoon: How Conflict can Improve Your Relationship”
  • “After the Fight: Using your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship”

Dr. Sue Johnson Books:

  • "Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love”
  • “Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships”

Dr. Harville Hendrix books:

  • “Getting the Love you Want”
  • “Keeping the Love you Find”

“Five Love Languages” Gary Chapman

“ScreamFree Marriage” Hal Runkel

“Boundaries” Henry Cloud and John Townsend

“Boundaries in Marriage” Henry Cloud and John Townsend

“Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress” John Gray


Couples in Crisis Books

“The Intimacy Struggle” Janet Woititz

“Marriage On The Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and an Alcoholic" Janet Woititz

“After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma” Lorie Dwinell, Jane Middleton-Moz

“After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful” Janis Abrahms Spring

“How Can I Forgive You?” Janis Abrahms Spring

“I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me” Jerold Kreisman and Hal Straus

“Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder” Paul Mason, Randi Kreger

“Before a Bad Goodbye” Dr. Tim Clinton

“Will Our Love Last” Sam Hamburg

"Should I Try to Work It Out? A Guidebook for Individuals and Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce” Alan Hawkins

“Stop Blaming, Start Loving” Bill O’Hanlon and Pat Hudson

“The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage” Michele Weiner-Davis

“Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again” Michele Weiner-Davis


Self Help Books

“Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior” Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg

“Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be” Rachel Hollis, Thomas Nelson

“Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals” Rachel Hollis

“The Dance of Anger” Harriet Lerner

“The Anger Workbook” Cater, Minirth

“Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life” Spradlin

“The Intimacy Struggle” Janet Woititz

“Marriage On The Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and an Alcoholic” Janet Woititz

"After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma” Lorie Dwinell, Jane Middleton-Moz


Divorce Books

“Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life” Abigail Trafford

“Moving Forward After Divorce” David and Lisa Frisbie

“Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends” Dr. Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti

“The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict after a Difficult Divorce” Elizabeth S. Thayer, Ph.D. and Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D.

"SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder" Bill Eddy

“The Dance of Anger” Harriet Lerner

“The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Reclaim Your Life One Week At A Time” Hunter, Megan, LaRochelle, Andrea, et al.

"Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You” Dr. Amy Baker, Paul Fine


Divorce with Children (Parent Resources)

“Mom’s House, Dad’s House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried” Isolina Ricci

“Mom’s House Dad’s House for Kids” Isolina Ricci

“Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive after Divorce” Tammy Daughtry

“The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict after a Difficult Divorce” Elizabeth S. Thayer, Ph.D. and Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D.

“Don't Alienate the Kids: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce” Bill Eddy

“Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way” M. Gary Neuman

“The Good Divorce” Constance Ahrons

“What about the Kids” Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee

“Helping Children Cope with Divorce” Edward Teyber

“Step-Coupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family” Susan Wisdom and Jennifer Green

“Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent” David and Lisa Frisbie

“Boundaries with Kids” Henry Cloud and John Townsend

“Successful Single Parenting” Gary Richmond


Books for Children about Divorce

“What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce?: A Survival Guide for Kids” Winchester, Beyer and Verdick

“Was It the Chocolate Pudding?: A Story for Little Kids about Divorce” Sandra Levins and Bryan Langdo

“Dear Mr. Henshaw” Beverly Cleary

“Dinosaurs Divorce” Marc and Laurie Brown

“The Spider and the Bee” Michael Shen

“Charlie Anderson” Barbara Abercrombie

“At Daddy’s on Saturdays” Linda Girard

“The Divorce Workbook: A Guide for Kids and Families” Fassler and Lash Ives

“Help! A Girl’s Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies” Nancy Holyoke

“Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids” Zoe Stern

“Missing Rabbit” R. Schotter

“It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear” Vicki Lansky

“Let’s Talk About It: Divorce” Fred Rogers

“The Divorce Express” Paula Danziger


High Conflict Resources

Bill Eddy books:

  • “5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities”
  • “Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to "The One" Who Will Make Your Life Hell”
  • “BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns”
  • “It's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Handling People Who Blame Others for Everything”
  • “Don't Alienate the Kids: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce”
  • “High Conflict People in Legal Disputes”
  • “SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder”

“The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Reclaim Your Life One Week At A Time” Hunter, Megan, LaRochelle, Andrea, et al.

“Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You” Amy Baker, Paul Fine, et al.


Narcissism Books

“The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap” Ross Rosenberg

“The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse” Debbie Mirza

“Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse” Dana Morningstar

“Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse” Shannon Thomas, LCSW

“Healing from Narcissism: A Journey Through The Stages of Recovering Your Personality From Narcissistic Disorder, Discover Compassion and Love for Others. Get Over The Addiction of Self-Obsession” Dr. Bancroft, Dr. Rachel

“Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself” Shahida Arabi

“Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” Wendy T. Behary, Jeffrey Young, et al.

“Why Is It Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism” Sandy Hotchkiss and Dr. Masterson

“When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing With Narcissism and Emotional Abuse” David Hawkins

“Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers” McBride, Ph.D.

“Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse: The Complete Survival Guide to Understanding Narcissism, Escaping the Narcissist in a Toxic Relationship Forever, and Your Road to Recovery” Jane Clarke


Borderline Personality Disorder Books

“I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me” Jerold Kreisman, Hal Straus

“The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder” Randi Kreger

“Understanding the Borderline Mother” Christine Ann Lawson

“Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder” Paul Mason, Randi Kreger

“Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder” Randi Kreger

“Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem” Kimberlee Roth, Freda Freidman, Randi Kreger


Parenting Books

“1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12” Thomas W. Phelan

“How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk” Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

“Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents” Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt

“He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself” Dr. Adam Price

“ScreamFree Parenting” Hal Runkel

“What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You” Douglas Riley

“The Explosive Child” Ross Greene

“Boundaries with Kids” Henry Cloud and John Townsend


Books for Children

Anxiety:

“The Worry Cure” Robert Leahy

“Coping Skills for Kids Workbook: Over 75 Coping Strategies to Help Kids Deal with Stress, Anxiety and Anger” Janine Halloran

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD, ADHD):

“Driven to Distraction” Edward Hallowell and John Ratey

Girls Growing Up

“The Care and Keeping of You –The Body Book for Girls” American Girl Publishing (and journal)

“The Feelings Book –The Care and Keeping of Your Emotions” American Girl Publishing (and journal)

What To Do Guides For Kids by Dawn Huebner:

What to do When you Worry Too Much: A Kids’s Guide to Overcome Anxiety

What to do When your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems with Anger

What to do When your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD

What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Negativity

What to Do When You Dread Your Bed: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Problems with Sleep

What to Do When Bad Habits Take Hold: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Nail Biting and More

Sometimes I Worry Too Much, But Now I Know How to Stop

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